Roommate Syndrome: Feature or Bug?

Why Your Relationship Is Supposed To Get Worse Over Time

Nate Bagley
8 min readDec 28, 2021
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What if Roommate Syndrome is a feature of marriage and not a bug?

What if Roommate Syndrome was actually SUPPOSED to happen, and it’s not because of something you did wrong?

Let me explain.

Every romantic relationship — if you stay together long enough — will reach this inevitable crossroads.

It’s the moment when you have the realization that what your life looks like with this person you decided to dedicate your life to does not reflect what you thought it would look like.

The Decline

Taylor and Pat had lost their spark. Neither one was pursuing the other like they did when they first fell in love.

They weren’t flirting with each other, laughing together, or even looking forward to seeing each other very much.

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Nate Bagley

I’m the creator of the Growth Marriage Podcast (http://growthmarriage.com). My mission in life is to rid the world of mediocre love.