Why You Need To Celebrate Your Relationship Failures

The Shortcut To Relationship Success

Nate Bagley
4 min readApr 12, 2022


On the podcast The Secret to Victory, Domonique Foxworth interviews some of the top athletes in the world like Peyton Manning, Serena Williams, and Kyle Schwarber about one thing…


In one episode he talks to Peyton Manning about setting the NFL record for most interceptions thrown in a season by a rookie and how he was able to move forward from that to win 2 Super Bowls.

In another, he talks to Kyle Schwarber about blowing out his knee early on in the baseball season, and how his time spent in recovery prepared him to help the Chicago Cubs win the World Series and break the longest curse in sports history (71 years).

It’s fascinating to hear how the best athletes in the world have used their biggest failures and struggles as preparation for their greatest accomplishments.

It’s obvious that without their struggles, their victories would NEVER have taken place.

I know this principle doesn’t only exist in sports. It also plays out in every other aspect of life… including our romantic relationships.

If you knew that the struggle you’re facing right now is EXACTLY the thing you needed to prepare you for the World Series of Love, how would that change your behavior?

Would you interact differently with the person you love if your challenges were actually getting you ready for something life-changingly awesome?

Would you approach your trials with more curiosity and ownership and less blame and anger?

Don’t get me wrong, I know facing your failure head-on is scary.

I can imagine throwing 3 interceptions in a game as a rookie in front of your home crowd with millions of people watching and still having to walk back onto the field to finish the game feels a lot like attempting to initiate sex with your partner after being rejected 8 times in a row.



Nate Bagley

I’m the creator of the Growth Marriage Podcast (http://growthmarriage.com). My mission in life is to rid the world of mediocre love.